IS IT WEIGHT OR IS IT YOUR PERCEPTION

Looking back on my life, there were certain events which define who I am as a person.  One of those defining moments was my decision to lose weight.  I had always been an overweight child and teased and bullied because of it.  When I had blossomed to 216 pounds at a height of 5’7″ tall, the site was not really pretty.  I was told by my idol ((who happened to be my father) that I had the fattest and biggest rear end he had seen a long time.  That was my defining moment.

          Let’s delve into the thinking process that I formulated after hearing the most devastating of messages from the most important adult in my life.  There was a definite goal in mind.  That goal was defined, categorized, quantified and fueled with humiliation by an authority figure.  I had to lose weight.  To get to my ideal weight, I had to lose in excess of 60 pounds.

           I went back to college on a mission to lose the 60 pounds in approximately 16 weeks.  Therefore, I have formulated a goal and time frame in which the goal was to be achieved.   The thought of losing this prodigious amount of weight was very daunting in my mind. I had to make this goal more realistic.  If you divide 60 pounds into 16 weeks, it comes out to less than 4 pounds per week.  To break it down even further I had to cut out approximately 750 to 100 calories per day.  This was definitely achievable.

          I preceded to breakdown this “unattainable” goal of 60 pounds into a very achievable loss of approximately 4 pounds per week.  In addition to the calorie calculation I made a conscious effort to exercise each day by running approximately 1 mile.  The next move was to commit this to paper and sign it with my goal weight of 156 pounds as the price.   To make a long story short, the goal was achieved and has been maintained for over 48 years.

          By making a commitment, based on sound evidence, I was able to achieve a lifelong goal.  The most interesting thing about this transformation was that it was not just physical but so mentally profound that it rearranged my entire personality.  I now possess the internal representation of the person that I strived to be. Interestingly enough, my other challenges of being teased and bullied dissipated as my confidence in myself increase. 

          We are made of energy and that energy permeates to other people. They might not realize it, but they are just reacting to the energy that you are putting out.  By changing the way that you think (your internal representation) you are changing the way other people perceive you.  I no longer put out the vibration that I was an overweight, non-confident person.  The icing on my personal cake was that my father told me that he was proud of my achievement.   That’s validation.

A BUM OR A CHAMPION

          If you followed my blog you would know that I am an avid baseball fan.  I find it interesting, that some people, would call any baseball player a bum or less than a Champion. The fact that these athletes have made it to the major leagues qualifies them as the elite.  To have made it to the major leagues one has to excel at the lower levels of the sport.  Most of these gentlemen were superstars in high school, college and the minor leagues.  By no means were these guys less than adequate or bums.  You see, however,  as you achieve more at a particular craft, the more opportunities open to you, but also comes the responsibility of  performing at a higher level.  When you get the opportunity to perform at that elite level, the task does not become physical, it becomes mental.  It is not always the person that has the most innate talent that wins; it is usually the person that has the most determination, drive and perseverance that gets the job done.

          Sport has always been a perfect metaphor for life. Each day brings a new set of circumstances for you to deal with.  Sometimes you are up for the task and others present more of a challenge.  The constant in all of this is your perception of whether these situations are good or bad.  If the situation is good, how do I praise myself and make sure that I can recapitulate the same set of circumstances.  If, on the other hand, the situation turns out poorly, or in a negative way, what parameters (thoughts, words, actions or decisions)) do I need to change in order for me to achieve the goal the next time around.

          A person should not be judged by how high they are on the mountain of life, they should be judged on their achievements or how far they have come to get there.  When it comes to facing up to the challenges of life, each person has the choice of whether they should be beaten or succeed.  To succeed, however, does not necessarily mean to win; it is more of a measuring stick of your personal success.  Our lives are filled with these decisions.  Choosing the positive direction, gives you the opportunity to succeed. 

          Remember, a batting average of over 300 will usually land you in the Baseball Hall of Fame.  That means however, that you failed at your task 7 times out of 10. It also means that you kept a positive attitude, made corrections, and changed your path until you found the correct set of circumstances. Success is assured if you are willing to change your approach.  Life is like a batting average, if you bat over 300 in your lifetime, you too will be in the Hall of Fame of life.