Looking back on my life, there were certain events which define who I am as a person. One of those defining moments was my decision to lose weight. I had always been an overweight child and teased and bullied because of it. When I had blossomed to 216 pounds at a height of 5’7″ tall, the site was not really pretty. I was told by my idol ((who happened to be my father) that I had the fattest and biggest rear end he had seen a long time. That was my defining moment.
Let’s delve into the thinking process that I formulated after hearing the most devastating of messages from the most important adult in my life. There was a definite goal in mind. That goal was defined, categorized, quantified and fueled with humiliation by an authority figure. I had to lose weight. To get to my ideal weight, I had to lose in excess of 60 pounds.
I went back to college on a mission to lose the 60 pounds in approximately 16 weeks. Therefore, I have formulated a goal and time frame in which the goal was to be achieved. The thought of losing this prodigious amount of weight was very daunting in my mind. I had to make this goal more realistic. If you divide 60 pounds into 16 weeks, it comes out to less than 4 pounds per week. To break it down even further I had to cut out approximately 750 to 100 calories per day. This was definitely achievable.
I preceded to breakdown this “unattainable” goal of 60 pounds into a very achievable loss of approximately 4 pounds per week. In addition to the calorie calculation I made a conscious effort to exercise each day by running approximately 1 mile. The next move was to commit this to paper and sign it with my goal weight of 156 pounds as the price. To make a long story short, the goal was achieved and has been maintained for over 48 years.
By making a commitment, based on sound evidence, I was able to achieve a lifelong goal. The most interesting thing about this transformation was that it was not just physical but so mentally profound that it rearranged my entire personality. I now possess the internal representation of the person that I strived to be. Interestingly enough, my other challenges of being teased and bullied dissipated as my confidence in myself increase.
We are made of energy and that energy permeates to other people. They might not realize it, but they are just reacting to the energy that you are putting out. By changing the way that you think (your internal representation) you are changing the way other people perceive you. I no longer put out the vibration that I was an overweight, non-confident person. The icing on my personal cake was that my father told me that he was proud of my achievement. That’s validation.